DanielLC comments on Using Evolution for Marriage or Sex - Less Wrong

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Comment author: DanielLC 06 May 2013 06:08:12AM 4 points [-]

If you have a trait that the other gender optimizes for more in short-term, lure them by acting short-term, even if later you'll attempt to raise their oxytocin to the long-term point.

I don't like that idea. It doesn't seem right to try to get someone in a long-term relationship when they were just looking for a short-term relationship. It seems no better than trying to get into a short-term relationship with someone who wants a long-term one.

Comment author: CronoDAS 06 May 2013 07:32:47AM 6 points [-]

I suspect that many people are open to both.

Comment author: diegocaleiro 06 May 2013 01:19:35PM 2 points [-]

You are right Daniel, best would be to do what you suggest, which I stated in the post. Sometimes as CronoDAS said, there is openness to bending though.

Comment author: bogus 06 May 2013 06:03:55PM *  1 point [-]

I agree, generally. Generally speaking, if you have good traits, you are better off showing them[1]; but you should keep your preferred "mode" in the foreground. This exploits the fact that the line dividing "short term" from "long term" relationships is often fuzzy, while avoiding a number of problems.

[1] An important exception: males should not show some purported 'long-term traits' when they are trying to optimize in the short-term. But this only applies to a few debatable things that are more like attitudes than genuinely 'good traits' persay.

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