Women famously say "sometimes I just want to be listened to. Don't try to solve my problems, just show me that you care." When men do this, women say "yes, that's what I'm talking about" and attempt to reinforce that behavior, perhaps unconsciously.

The people that own the bodies that I find attractive are women. If you pay attention women will tell you what they need in order to want to have sex with you.

Evolutionary psychology does not generally leave us conscious of why we react socially the way we react. Who can deny the widespread nature of men acting in a set of ways to attract a woman sexually? Who can deny the widespread nature of women acting certain ways to attract men? That we do this because we want the other person to be attracted to us, and not "sincerely" really mean we all hold each other in contempt?

Does the fact that I hold an evolutionary psychological interpretation of what is going on and express that understanding in unromantic terms make me any more or less likely to hold the object of my affection in contempt?