TimS comments on Bad Concepts Repository - Less Wrong

20 Post author: moridinamael 27 June 2013 03:16AM

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Comment author: TimS 28 June 2013 02:30:41AM 1 point [-]

In parallel to what sixes is saying, be careful about conflating "closure" and "working through."

Closure: comes from an external source - can be unhealthy to pursue because you cannot force another person / entity to give whatever "it" is to you.

Working through it: comes from an internal process - can be healthy if done successfully.

In practice, effectively coming to terms with some loss involves shifting from seeking closure to working through the loss.