But how happy or sad other minds are does change how happy or sad I am. Why would it be looking out for myself better if I ignored something that changes my life in a big way? And why should I pretend to only care about myself if I really do care about others? Or pretend to only care about how others cause changes in me, when I do in fact care about the well-being of people who don't change me?
Suppose I said to you that it's bad to care about the person you're going to be. After all, you aren't that person now. That person's thoughts and concerns are outside of the present you. And that person can't change anything for the present you.
That wouldn't be a very good reason to ignore the person I'll become. After all, I do want the person I'm going to be to be happy. I don't need to give reasons showing why I should care about myself over time. I just need to note that I do in fact care about myself over time. How is this different, in any important way that changes the reasoning above, from noting that I do in fact care about other people in their own right?
If people only cared about other people as ways to get warm good feels for themselves, then people would be happy to change themselves to get warm good feels both when others are happy and when others are sad. People also wouldn't care about people too far away to cause changes for them. But if I send a space car full of people far away from me, I still want them to be happy even after they're too far away to ever change anything for me again. That's a fact about how I am. Why should I try to change that?
I guess that makes sense. When people say things like "I want a lot of money", "I want to live in a fulfilling relationship", "I want to climb mt. everest", the essential quality of these desires is that they are real and actually happen roughly the same way you picture it in your mind. No one says things like "I want to have the good feeling of living in a fulfilling relationship whether or not I actually live in one"... no. Because it's important that they're actually real. You can say the same thing about helping ...
xkcd's Up-Goer Five comic gave technical specifications for the Saturn V rocket using only the 1,000 most common words in the English language.
This seemed to me and Briénne to be a really fun exercise, both for tabooing one's words and for communicating difficult concepts to laypeople. So why not make a game out of it? Pick any tough, important, or interesting argument or idea, and use this text editor to try to describe what you have in mind with extremely common words only.
This is challenging, so if you almost succeed and want to share your results, you can mark words where you had to cheat in *italics*. Bonus points if your explanation is actually useful for gaining a deeper understanding of the idea, or for teaching it, in the spirit of Gödel's Second Incompleteness Theorem Explained in Words of One Syllable.
As an example, here's my attempt to capture the five theses using only top-thousand words:
If you make a really strong computer and it is not very nice, you will not go to space today.
Other ideas to start with: agent, akrasia, Bayes' theorem, Bayesianism, CFAR, cognitive bias, consequentialism, deontology, effective altruism, Everett-style ('Many Worlds') interpretations of quantum mechanics, entropy, evolution, the Great Reductionist Thesis, halting problem, humanism, law of nature, LessWrong, logic, mathematics, the measurement problem, MIRI, Newcomb's problem, Newton's laws of motion, optimization, Pascal's wager, philosophy, preference, proof, rationality, religion, science, Shannon information, signaling, the simulation argument, singularity, sociopathy, the supernatural, superposition, time, timeless decision theory, transfinite numbers, Turing machine, utilitarianism, validity and soundness, virtue ethics, VNM-utility