knb comments on rational dating - can we escape the rat race be setting smarter goals? - Less Wrong

-7 Post author: RobertChange 09 September 2013 10:38PM

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Comment author: knb 09 September 2013 11:49:25PM *  6 points [-]

Mainstream culture says that women also care a great deal about physical attractiveness, sense of humor, etc.

Evolutionary psychology also demonstrates that women care a lot about attractiveness and that both men and women have other criteria (some of which are context-dependent).

Comment author: RobertChange 10 September 2013 12:19:44AM -2 points [-]

Of course they do and that's why I wrote "plus other things we don't need to get into here". The point is the beauty-fixation of men which nobody has yet denied. Drethelin even suggests it is so inert that it cannot be changed ;-)

Comment author: ChristianKl 10 September 2013 12:18:11PM 1 point [-]

You could have made the point that men care a lot about beauty without asserting anything about what women care about.

When talking about a charged topic like human sexuality it makes sense to avoid platitudes and instead focus on the point that you want to make.