Perhaps I'm just confused.
Brillyant said "Hollywood is responsible for some huge chunk of the sum total of all relationship problems."
To my way of thinking, that seems to pretty clearly be asserting a causal relation.
And to my way of thinking such a causal relationship is inconsistent, for example, with the observation that all relationship problems existed in more or less the same form prior to Hollywood.
More generally: if B existed before A, and continues to exist in more or less the same fashion after A, I see no grounds for saying that A is responsible for B.
Even if A blasts B in people's faces, or presents B as normality; even if A has a persistent strong reach.
But it apparently seems plausible to both you and Brillyant that Hollywood causes relationship problems despite all of that. So as I say, perhaps I'm confused, either about what y'all are actually claiming, or about how to think about cause and effect.
Perhaps, for example, there was an earlier cause, but now it's gone, and Hollywood is sustaining an effect that would not exist without it. That's not logically impossible, but it seems an unjustified speculation.
Brillyant said "Hollywood is responsible for some huge chunk of the sum total of all relationship problems."
To my way of thinking, that seems to pretty clearly be asserting a causal relation.
Hollywood's role here is promoting and popularizing a set of existing relationship tropes, not necessarily coming up with those tropes in the first place, and it isn't the sole champion of these tropes. If an unspoken or explicit agreement took over the majority of Hollywood studios, script writers, and so forth, then we could get a healthier, more realist...
Hi,
what good movies can you suggest that give ideas or inspirations on how to be more rational?
I just watched [Memento](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Memento_%28film%29) last night and I was very impressed.
(No spoilers in this post)
The main character is a guy who suffers from amnesia, he forgets everything after a couple minutes so he has developed a system to cope with it. He takes pictures and writes notes. E.g. when staying at a hotel he takes a picture of it and put it in his pocket. So later when he doesnt know where he is staying he searches his pockets, finds the picture of the hotel and then he knows.
What I learned
I identified with the character in the movie because in spite of not having amnesia my memory as everyone elses isn't perfect either and I have all the quirks(biases) of a normal human brain. I cant exactly remember what I did last Thursday at 3 PM. Do I actually know why I am doing what Im doing or why I believe what I believe? I may have good rationalizations for both, of course, but that doesnt mean they are the real reasons.
I like to read LW but I havent developed much of a system to actually be more rational. If anyone has, I would be eager to read about it.
Practical Advice
What system could I develop to be more rational? One thing that a lot of management experts(e.g. Peter Drucker) have already pointed out is to write down how we actually spend our time because often how we spend it is not how we think we spend it and we end up spending much more time on unproductive activities than we are aware of. How much time went into random internet browsing last week?
I will start an activity log during work: how much time Im spending on what. This will be a first step.