Henry_V comments on Radical Honesty - Less Wrong
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Tom Breton---very good discussion.
It reminds me of a panel in which I participated. The panel was celebrating diversity of one sort or another at my institution, and one speaker was a contemporary of MLK. He discussed the need to engage "the other side" in one's debates.
A student from the audience asked, "But what if the other side won't listen?"
"Keep talking!" was the response.
Well, here I really felt like I should jump in, but it would have been rude. In any case, everything I've learned about communication I learned from being married. When we think someone "won't listen" (which is probably not accurate---this seems to occur whenever we think that we're right and the other person is wrong; it has nothing to do with their listening), then we ourselves probably need to do *less* talking and *more* listening.
To do this successfully, it requires humility, and, of course, the desire to overcome one's own bias.