Indeed. "utilitarianism feels like what you get when you ask" this, let you empathy take over and think it to its 'logical conclusion'.
The problem I have with this kind of reasoning that it leads into extremes that don't match up with your other values. Oh it might not look like a conflict. But I sometimes get the impression that this is because the daubt is compartmentalized away because the empathy is such a positively valued emotion and not following it feels wrong.
I have to admit that me not being a utilitarian I don't have a clear cut answer of how to rationally act on my empathy either. The problem with complex value functions is that there are no simple answers and utilitarianism suspiciously looks like another simplistic answer to a complex problem.
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