In general, do you have ways in your relationship of asking for things you want and having that be OK?
If so, how do you do it? I would think the same techniques would apply. (In my own relationship, I emphasize symmetry.)
If not, it might be better to start there, and worry about gifts and love-languages later.
I'm currently single so the question is hypothetical.
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