Assuming that "place someone else's needs above your own" means that the other person's higher-priority needs are placed above my lower-priority needs (not that any their need is automatically placed above any my need).
I suppose I do mean that, though I've never thought of that distinction. Hm. Thanks -- I think you've improved the model in my mind.
This is the earlier promised post about Dealing with a Major Personal Crisis. Please continue reading there but comment here.
The reasons for posting it this way are explained at the end of the link. I hope this approach does what I want it to.