Whether someone has a right to vote or study science, and what makes one instinctively sexually attracted, are two different things. Men's sexual preferences didn't change just because voting became universal; why should women's?
Obviously. But the zeitgeist seems to downplay this truth toward zero.
I will consider your role-playing advice. I'm not sure how to integrate this with honesty and clear communication. And integrated with real life it must be otherwise it will not work or risk become an isolated purpose (which will evolve out of existence). And there are parts that I can enhance to work.
This is the earlier promised post about Dealing with a Major Personal Crisis. Please continue reading there but comment here.
The reasons for posting it this way are explained at the end of the link. I hope this approach does what I want it to.