I always enjoy your contributions and it makes me sad that you use the site less than you would because of a/the downvote stalker.* I'm interested in applying microeconomics to these sorts of domestic or between-friends situations in which it might conventionally be taboo to do so, and this type of bidding in particular is something I've wondered about, so thanks for posting this!
*(I am not sure how easy it would be for an admin to look at the database and figure out what to do once someone's been identified as a downvote stalker, but I'm skeptical it would not be worthwhile at least trying to sort it out given how destructive it is, and at the very least I'd like to know why it seems nothing's been done. (Not to assign blame, but to try to figure out how we can get faster response on such issues in future.) If there really is one or a small number of people behind most of the downvote stalking, then checking the downvotes against victims should take (<)<15 minutes. I'd put >80% probability on this turning up one or more stalkers even just doing a naive database query using the set of victims in this thread.)
The first person who ran some detection programs on the whole database didn't discover useful hits. I recently wrote them again and asked them to check daenerys as target specifically.
After moving in with my new roomies (Danny and Bethany of Beeminder), I discovered they have a fair and useful way of auctioning off joint decisions. It helps you figure out how much you value certain chores or activities, and it guarantees that these decisions are worked out in a fair way. They call it "yootling", and wrote more about it here.
A quick example (Note: this only works if all participants are of the types of people who consider this sort of thing a Good Idea, and not A Grotesque Parody of Caring or whatnot):
Use Case: Who Picks up the Kids from Grandma's?
D and B are both busy working, but it's time to pick up the kids from their grandparents house. They decide to yootle for it.
B bids $100 (In a regular Normal Person exchange, this would be like saying "I'm elbows deep in code right now, and don't want to break flow. I'd really rather continue working right now, but of course I'll go if it's needed.")
D bids $15 (In a regular Normal Person exchange this would be like saying "I don't mind too much, though I do have other things to do now...")
So D "wins" the bid, and B pays him $15 to go get the kids from their grandma's.
Of course.... it would be a pain in the butt to constantly be paying each other, so instead they have a 10% chance of paying 10x the amount, and a 90% chance to pay nothing, using a random number generator.
This is made easier by the fact that we have a bot to run this, but before that they would use the high-tech solution of Holding Up Fingers.