ChristianKl comments on Asking about polyamory in Melbourne - Less Wrong

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Comment author: ChristianKl 10 February 2014 10:08:24PM 0 points [-]

On the other hand, I've seen a failure mode where people with poor introspective skills talk themselves into believing they're insensitive to jealousy when the opposite is true

Talking yourself into it is relatively easy. Talking a woman into it when you yourself have poor social skills isn't. A poly-woman usually wants to avoid the situation where she causes a man that gets to much attached to her serious pain.

Comment author: Nornagest 10 February 2014 10:27:17PM *  0 points [-]

I've seen it happen at least twice. In both cases the problem became evident a few months into the relationship, but by that point most of the damage had already been done.

I actually think that poor social skills there may have made the problem more likely, by masking as simple awkwardness what in a more socially adept partner would correctly have been seen as jealousy. Don't know how far that generalizes, though.

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