Taboo "rationalists": What would happen if you stopped trying to change your map to better reflect the territory? It most probably would reflect the territory less.

That's a behavior and no belief.

It most probably would reflect the territory less.

There are many instance where trying to change a belief makes the belief stronger. People who are very much attached to their beliefs usually don't update.

Many mainstream professional psychologist follows a code that means that he doesn't share deep information about his own private life with his clients. I don't believe in that ideal of professionalism but it's not straightforward to dismiss it.

More importantly a good psychologist doesn't confront his client with information about the client that's not helpful for them. He doesn't say: "Your life is a mess because of points 1 to 30." That's certainly information that's interesting to the client but not helpful. It makes much more sense to let the client figure out stuff on his own or to guide him to specific issues that the client is actually in a position to change.

Monday I gave someone meaningful true information about them that I consider helpful to them their first reaction was: "I don't want to have nightmares. Don't give them to me."

I do have a policy of being honest but that doesn't entail telling someone true information for which they didn't ask and that messes them up. I don't think that any good psychologist will just share all information that are available. It just a bad strategy when you are having a discussion about intimate personal topics.