Thanks, that's a great post! Mark has some good advice on changing identities:

• describe your new identity in writing, and put up reminders

• identities are often attached to context, so changing your environment is often useful - especially removing/adding elements that reinforce the old/new identity respectively.

The more we rid our lives of the details and reminders that bolster what we want to let go of, the better able we are to make space for something new and healthier. That can mean clearing out our cupboards, switching out our cookbooks, changing our daily routines and shopping sources, socializing differently, overhauling our wardrobes, and revising our calendars. In other words, transform as many relevant externals as possible (giving special attention to the ones that have the most impact) and let the effects seep inward over time.