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I think it's more important to be on good terms with your family than with people in general, largely just because they're a Schelling point. But it's not vital. From the description, I'd say that in jkadlubo's case, it just isn't worth it.
I think that, in general, most people have a strong connection to their family and want to keep it. Family tends to offer a wide range of shared experiences and shared ideas and this can be very valuable for a variety of reasons. Most people want to be on good terms with their family because they actually like their family. If you don't desire to be on good terms with your family, there's little reason to expend a lot of effort to do so.
If you need a place to stay or a loan or something, I think your family is generally more likely to do it than a friend.
Only if you're family, you know, doesn't suck and isn't abusive. For most people, you're definitely right, but I wouldn't call those arguments in favor of staying on good terms with bad families.
A close friend would offer those things.
This "is family somehow more important than other people" question is something I've been reluctantly thinking about for some time. I want to find a "yes", but I don't see it. Then I start doubting my expertise on the subject and scream to myself "confirmation bias!!!". And then I shut the screamer up with "but you always doubt yourself, maybe this time you are right?"
I think family should be given some extra slack-- for example, if your family is kind of boring and/or irritating, but basically supportive, it's probably worth your while to maintain your connections. However, if you have clear evidence that your family is not on your side, you would do better to build relationships with other people.