A brief rundown of the Leipzig Solstice! There were only 13 of us, not 20, due to a couple of people cancelling or not arriving. As is usual in these kinds of situations, the group size turned out to be perfect in retrospect.
On Friday, we arrived, set up things, cooked, ate, did two funny icebreaker games, sang our first song together, collected things to do the next day, and collapsed into a two-hour cuddle pile that might have broken the record for most number of people ever piled on a single mattress without any limbs sticking out because the floor was lava. We were sober, I swear.
On Saturday after breakfast and preparations, we had the celebration in three parts (Light, Dark, Light) from something like 3pm to 1am, with one meal in each of the light parts. We created the Solstice 2014 tumblr in order to be more connected to the rest of humanity. Then we saw Tim Minchin and the Heritage Orchestra which gave everyone who still needed to prepare a ritual time to do so, and entertained everyone else. Then we sang, did a meditation on our ability to call for assistance involving Spotted Hyenas, the infamous Pinkie Pie ritual, the very effective intimacy-building CFAR exercise "Hot Seat" , and "The Gift We Give To Tomorrow".
The dark part consisted of a very clever NLPish meditation on leaving behind in the ending year some things we didn't need anymore, the haunting "Song of Dissociation", "Adrift in Space and Time", "Beyond the Reach of God" and the Moment of Darkness. We got back into light wiith my personal highlight of the event, a (slightly altered) "This is a Dawn". After the "A Thousand Stars" song, we had food and feedback before building a huge pillow fort and in it, you guessed it, a cuddle pile. At some point the wine cooler came out and my memory gets hazy at that point, but apparently four guests were hardcore enough to go see the sunrise at something like 8am froom a nearby tower.
Sunday, between some people leaving early and others sleeping late, was mostly a long and lovely chat that took the entire day. We covered many topics, mostly LWish and personal, and built some good friendships I hope. And we're keeping the pillow fort.
The emerging feedback consensus was that the light-dark-light structure worked well, that the series of "Adrift in Space and Time", "Beyond the Reach of God", Moment of Darkness and "This is a Dawn" was most excellent especially in that particular order, and that the gratitude (Pinkie Pie) and leaving something behind parts were also especially valuable and worth keeping.
Overall, I think the great level of intimacy in our small group made a greater difference to the other Solstices than the length of the event in itself. Almost everbody actively contributed, by reading something, leading a song or a game, or cooking. I'd love to do it again next year, and I think most or possibly all of our guests would agree.
Thanks for writing all this up!
This'll be the first of a collection of posts about the growing Secular Solstice. This post gives an overview of what happened this year. Future posts will explore what types of Solstice content resonates with which people, what I've learned about how Less Wrong culture intersects with other cultures, and updates I've made about ritual as it relates to individuals as well as movement building.
For the past three years, I've been spending the last several months of each year frantically writing songs, figuring out logistics, and promoting the New York Winter Solstice celebration for the Rationality and Secular communities in NYC.
This year... well, I did that too. But I also finally got to go a Solstice that I *wasn't* responsible for. I went to the Bay Area on December 13th, traveled straight from the airport to the dress rehearsal...
...and I found a community coming together to create something meaningful. I walked into the hall and found some 30 or so people, with some stringing together lights, some people tying decorations around candles, a choir singing together... it felt very much like a genuine holiday coming together in an organic fashion.
(There was some squabbling about how to best perform particular songs... but it felt *very* much to me like real holiday squabbling, whenever a family of creative people with strong opinions on things get together, and I found it surprisingly heartwarming)
This year there were four large Solstices in the US and one small but intense 3-day event in Leipzig. Each of them had a somewhat different audience and a different focus. Each was put on by local communities who I encouraged to put their own spin on it, bringing a mix of new and "traditional" songs. I've gotten some interesting feedback on which parts of Less Wrong culture resonate with which people.
Solstices that I actively collaborated with and/or consulted on include:
Bay Area - The most explicitly Less Wrong-y and transhumanist Solstice this year. Approximately 130 attendees. I suspect had the largest choir leading songs. About half of the audience seemed to be from what I'd consider the collective Rationality community (i.e. EA/Less Wrong/CFAR) and half were "friends of friends" who were less Less Wrong-y.
(If you went to the Bay Solstice, you can fill out the anonymous feedback form here. If you don't have much time, at least answering the first couple questions would be helpful)
Seattle - Run by a mix of Less Wrong and EA types. It was a shorter ceremony but included additional activities like improv games, Non-Violent Communication workshops and other ways to break the ice and help people bond. There between 50-60 attendees.
(Feedback form for Seattle)
San Diego - This was put on by Sunday Assembly and the local Coalition of Reason (a collection of secular/humanist/atheist groups), with no Less Wrong connection at all. They also had fewer songs, more stories and other group activities. This one had about 100 adult attendees and about 20 children. (Probably the most family friendly of the bunch).
Leipzig - This was a three day workshop, with around 20 people who worked collaboratively to design and run a ritual together, along with some highlight songs from the "traditional" Brighter Than Today program.
New York - I ran this personally, co-sponsored by Sunday Assembly and Ethical Culture. My goal with the event was to highlight important ideas I've learned from Less Wrong and Effective Altruism, framed in the language of the general secular movement. I also wanted to address particular issues affecting the New York Rationality community. We had 180 attendees, about half from the Rationality/EA communities and half from various secular communities.
(If you went to the NYC Solstice, you can fill out the anonymous feedback form here. Again, if you don't have much time, it's still helpful if you answer the first couple questions)
Washington Post Article
I was put in touch with a reporter who was excited to cover the Solstice's growth as secular holiday. She ended up attending the one in San Francisco. (We talked beforehand about how the Bay Area Solstice would be put on by a local community with a lot of Silicon Valley tech-entrepreneurship-types, how it'd likely have more of a focus on technology, and that they'd be trying out some sillier songs that I wasn't sure would work at a more mainstream event. She noted that she would focus on covering the growth of the holiday as a whole rather than focusing on the particular execution at the Bay Area event).
She wrote an article for the Religious News Wire, which was picked up by the Washington Post website among other places. The article was extremely positive (although it mistakenly attributes some speeches to me which were actually given by locals). I mentioned that to her and she edited the original, but the Washington Post had already picked up the earlier version.
A brief snippet:
Building a Better Solstice
I deliberately encourage experimentation with the format - real ritual evolves, and if we want great ritual (in particular, great ritual-for-your-particular-local-community, as opposed to great ritual-for-the-NYC-crowd that you're trying to emulate), we want to iterate faster, see what resonates with people, and let the less interesting variations die out.
This year I'm working to ensure each local solstice does a feedback form and sends it out as soon as possible. I want to get a sense of what things resonate (or don't) fairly reliably across the world and what things happened to work for particular groups or small sample sizes.
There's an obvious problem that a) the most likely people to fill out the survey are people who like the event, b) the second most likely people to fill out the survey are people who hate the event. If you felt the event was "meh" (and perhaps don't want to fill out an entire survey because you don't care that much), it'd still be helpful if you at least briefly answered the first couple questions, so we have a broader sense of what works.
(And again, we definitely want negative feedback, in particular from people who want *something* similar to the Solstice but didn't like the execution of it)
One thing that's clear is that transhumanist and LW content is polarizing, even within the Less Wrong crowd - some people really love it and it makes them feel connected and inspired. Others find it very offputting. It's possible that the best solution is to have multiple events that cater to different people. But I've also found it's very possible (albeit harder - it took me a couple years of practice) to make an event that works on multiple levels, resonating with the mainstream secular community with Easter eggs that are funny/sad/inspiring to people in the LW or Transhuman spheres.
Another thing that's perhaps more surprising: people who don't know what Less Wrong or Transhumanism are at all tend to be perfectly fine with Less Wrong and a lot of Transhumanist content and can be pretty oblivious to even fairly direct anti-death messages. It's the people who know about the memesphere and either don't like it or are worried about their friends not liking it that are most uncomfortable.
What makes a Secular Solstice™?
So, if experimentation is a core element of the whole endeavor, what makes something a Secular Solstice as opposed to a solstice-that-is-secular? Or any other non-theistic holiday? The previous attempt at a humanist holiday, HumanLight, hasn't really caught on, and I think that's largely because it's deliberately flexible - you can celebrate it on whatever day you want, with whatever traditions you want, so long as it ties in with humanity-as-a-force-for-good.
Being too flexible or generic makes for a watered-down experience that nobody especially likes, or a collection of random experiences that don't have much in common with each other.
So my answer is this:
The core element of the Brighter Than Today Solstice is the emotional arc. It begins fun and upbeat. It turns somber, then sad, before turning uplifting and inspirational. It should lead people from light to darkness to light again, both literally and metaphorically.
The single most important image people should imagine, when they are visualizing the solstice, is the Candlelit Story and the Moment of Darkness - a moment when all but one candle has been extinguished, and a story is told about the hardships we've faced and the hardships yet to come. The story should end giving people reason to hope, without resorting to comforting falsehoods.
Then that candle is extinguished, and people sit in the darkness for a minute before the lights are rekindled and hope returns in earnest.
The particular songs I've written and found are not essential, nor is even the idea of music itself necessarily. (Although I highly recommend it, and I highly recommend finding songs that fill similar purposes. You might not be a fan of the actual song Brighter Than Today, but it's very helpful to have some kind of emotionally uplifting piece that's rooted in an evidence-based worldview that lifts you out of the darkness).
Some people actively dislike music or group singing, but still like the stories that take them through that arc. Some people like "preachy" content that gives people a call to action, and some people hate it and prefer more casual personal stories.
I'm not sure how this holiday will evolve to best meet the needs of the rationalist community and the wider world, but there are many paths I can imagine it taking. I'm glad that the core concept has resonated with so many people, and looking forward to working together to make it better each year.