VAuroch comments on Negative polyamory outcomes? - Less Wrong

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Comment author: VAuroch 09 January 2015 10:17:36PM 0 points [-]

Empirically, it is generally easier for women to find potential partners willing to date them than it is for men; this isn't necessarily useful to them unless their standards are low-ish, but if they're willing to sacrifice date quality, it's a tradeoff that's much easier for them to make.

This is massively exacerbated by the gender imbalance present in most fields that have a significant rationalist following, obviously.

Comment author: therufs 10 January 2015 01:24:27AM 1 point [-]

I'm curious about the extent to which rationalists have a strong enough preference for dating within the rationality community that they exclude non-rationalist potential dates.

Or, in another framing, to what extent the preference for a rationalist date outweighs other considerations, to the extent that not dating a non-rationalist is preferable to dating a non-rationalist.

Comment author: JoshuaZ 10 January 2015 01:50:37AM 0 points [-]

That may depend heavily on what one means by "rationalist" in this context.

Comment author: VAuroch 11 January 2015 04:04:02AM 0 points [-]

That wasn't central to my point; I mean that in the fields where most rationalists spend their time, there's a significant gender imbalance. Even if you're totally willing to date non-rationalists, by default the people you meet will be heavily imbalanced unless you're specifically cultivating social circles not related to rationality or your profession.