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This is a rant; probably skip it if you're not in the mood.
I have debit cards and credit cards but high debt and no savings. I am depressed and (because of that) have poor executive function (i.e., getting-shit-done ability).
I have a job where I can work flexible hours. An obvious solution to my problem would be to work more hours. And yet here I am not doing that!
I could also move to a place with lower rent, but that would require me to do some combination of throwing stuff out (which is work) and getting people to help me move my stuff to the new place (I have mobility issues that prevent me from doing a lot of lifting things). Also, I'm hoping my current low point won't last forever and I kind of like my current place and would hate to move out of it because of a hopefully temporary problem.
I could also see a therapist, but they cost money. I could also try drugs, but they cost money and most of the ones I've tried so far either do nothing (bupropion) or make things worse (paroxetine). (Except modafinil. Yay modafinil!)
I sure feel like a dummy for being incompetent at life, but feeling that way doesn't actually help me not be incompetent at life.
In fact, it's making you more incompetent. Knock it off.
You're engaging in the classic "How do I hate me? Let me count the ways." What's wrong with me? Why can't I do this? I recall taking something of a sadistic glee in my own misfortunes and failings. I used to call it "self sadism". And those were the good days. On the worst days, I felt powerless and hopeless. "Incompetent at life". This is a maladaptive use of attention.
It's neither helpful nor a good time. It generates depression. You're using your mind and attention in ways that hurt you. Do something else.
Wouldn't it be more fun to work and take your mind off things, and then have a little more coin in your pocket? You can always come back to making yourself miserable tomorrow. Or the next day.
Why don't you just see if you like that kind of day better?
The following may or may not appeal to you, but when I was in a similar state, I found it very appropriate and moving. See "Sucker Punch".