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Delicate Daisy should buy ear plugs.
Alice is playing by the rules.
Daisy has a problem, which you correctly point out, won't particularly be solved by Alice stifling herself.
But Daisy doesn't execute any agency to solve her own problems, she doesn't request a favor from Alice, she instead complains. She feels entitled to complain to someone playing by the rules.
One can wonder if Daisy in fact enjoys her problem, and gets real satisfaction out of using it as a club to get others to bend to her will. Because while the degree varies, people do enjoy dominating others.
This reads like quite a lot of bile towards a hypothetical person who doesn't like loud music.
You don't know what the neighbour's tried, you're putting a lot of weight on the word 'complained', which can cover a range of different approaches, and you're speculating about her nefarious motivations.
In my experience with neighbours, co-workers, generally other people, it's best to assume that people aren't being dicks unless you have positive reasons to think they are. And to lean towards accommodation.