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I'd be interested in this as well.
I tend to have trust issues, and thought that oxytocin lozenges might make me a little more trusting, and thereby likable, on job interviews.
The premise here seems to be that it would just pump up the paranoia if I have the "anxious attachment style", which seems likely enough.
One example study: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25419499
FYI, my solution to my trust issues has been to accept them, and attack the other side of the trust coin: I remain as untrusting as before, I simply care less about the failure modes.
For me personally, this makes things a lot more entertaining. It becomes a game of seeing if I can predict if someone is going to violate my trust or not - I trust them with something trivial and unimportant to see what will happen. I expect and anticipate failure a lot of the time from my lab rats, and am usually pleasantly surprised when I don't get it.
Over time I build up models of the people I can trust in various ways, but even with the best of them it winds up looking like airport landing times: even the most reliable route fails fairly often, but as long as it doesn't cause cascading effects that's ok.
With the job interview, it's more of a one shot deal. Any solution for that scenario?
The trouble is I want to be more trusting and open exactly in those instances when I care more about the outcome, when something significant is on the line.
Practice when it doesn't matter so that it comes as second nature when it does.