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Do you have the social feedback from other people that they feel such an aura from you? If you do, you should probably share that information.
If you don't you are overrating your abilities. Given what you wrote elsewhere about your level of social skill I think that's likely to be the case.
This was a miscommunication. I'm not saying that I exude such an aura. I'm saying that the aura that people attribute to them is misleading, as it carries connotations that they're super human, when the actual situation is that they were operating within (roughly) the same biology that all humans are.
It seems to me that you say that without having interacted with any such individuals.
Above you speak about having learned that "caring about people" requires not only thinking about their feeling but actually feeling. Other people react towards the emotional states that are in your body.
If your body would actually resonate strongly with the emotion of compassion that's something that other people can pick up. It's produces an aura for someone like Ghandi that makes other people want to follow him.
Having the same biology is one thing, acquiring a skill at world class level in weeks or months is another.