shminux comments on How my social skills went from horrible to mediocre - Less Wrong

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Comment author: shminux 21 May 2015 12:10:57AM 1 point [-]

Just wanted to mention that I like this write-up, though I suspect that the only transferrable takeaway for many others struggling with similar issues would be

Focusing on understanding how one is similar to others and how one is different from others can be a better way to become socially aware than usual efforts to "develop social skills."

Bu the description of your meta-cognition process is hopefully encouraging enough for others to try to emulate.

Comment author: JonahSinick 21 May 2015 12:20:20AM 0 points [-]

Thanks. Do you think that the particular set of issues that I had is largely disjoint from that of most LWers? I know there are differences, but do you think that the overlap is too small for it to be relevant? The reason that I ask is that there may be parts of my posts are highly relevant and not yet salient, that I can make more explicit.

Comment author: shminux 21 May 2015 01:21:42AM 6 points [-]

I mentioned your post to a couple of people online who I found to be in the most dire need of a similar action, and their reaction was a complete misunderstanding and rejection. Here is the anonymized quote:

wtf is this s**t

his solution is "learn to be good at reading body language and reactions, find a group you have common interests with and interact with them a ton, get useful feedback from your social partners"

if I could do any of those i wouldn't have a problem

not to mention that his entire post is just a fucking humblebrag

"I'm so smart and good at deep thought others can't follow/remembering more about their lives than they do that everyone hates me"

So, unsurprisingly, the people most in need are the least likely to benefit. For the same reason you did not find the neurotypical feedback useful. The spectrum is wide and multi-dimensional, and those far from the center are not necessarily close to each other.

Comment author: JonahSinick 21 May 2015 01:36:39AM 2 points [-]

Thanks for the information.

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