as soon as it failed the author was no longer interested in rationalist community -- which makes me suspect they were never interested in the community in the first place, other than as another place to conquer for their tribe.

This is not my read of Daenerys, having met her in person, or at least it's a very slanted presentation of the same underlying expectations.

As opposed to e.g. speaking in the name of all women not participating on LW because obviously they must have exactly the same opinion as you do.

This in particular seems ridiculously uncharitable. From the call for experiences starting off the LW Women project:

When these gender discussions come up, I am often tempted to write in with my own experiences and desires. But I generally don't because I don't want to generalize from one example, or claim to be the Voice of Women, etc.