Good_Burning_Plastic comments on Rational approach to finding life partners - Less Wrong

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Comment author: Good_Burning_Plastic 09 September 2015 07:06:18PM *  1 point [-]

Yes, though I disagree that the availability of inferior substitutes (buses to Poland in my analogy? flights to Moldova?) would make the market failure worse, and possibly (I'm not sure what exactly advancedatheist is thinking) also about how much of a market failure there actually is vs how much certain men are just actually less sexually attractive to women than others (much like I guess you'd agree certain workers are just actually less productive than others) and would stay so even in a hypothetical perfect efficient market.

Comment author: VoiceOfRa 09 September 2015 10:24:24PM 3 points [-]

Yes, though I disagree that the availability of inferior substitutes (buses to Poland in my analogy? flights to Moldova?) would make the market failure worse, and possibly (I'm not sure what exactly advancedatheist is thinking)

More like, the 'powers that be' doesn't actually want to fix the market failure, and thinks offering inferior substitutes will at least cause the poeple complaning about it to shut up.

also about how much of a market failure there actually is vs how much certain men are just actually less sexually attractive to women than others

Well, the market failure was a lot less in the recent past.

(much like I guess you'd agree certain workers are just actually less productive than others)

I wouldn't agree that this is an explanation for a rise in unemployment.

Comment author: Lumifer 10 September 2015 02:51:56PM *  1 point [-]

Remind me, why are you calling the inability of some to find sex a "market failure"? It might well be that the "market" does not think the package they are offering in exchange is good enough.

The fact that I can't acquire a superyacht is not a market failure.

Instead, the basic complaint looks much more like the classic entitlement narrative of "I have a right, I couldn't exercise this right, so I'm a victim, somebody make sure I can exercise my rights!"

Comment author: VoiceOfRa 11 September 2015 01:34:20AM 2 points [-]

Remind me, why are you calling the inability of some to find sex a "market failure"? It might well be that the "market" does not think the package they are offering in exchange is good enough.

Let, me translate that into the unemployment analogy for you:

Remind me, why are [we] calling the inability of some to find a job a "market failure"? It might well be that the "market" does not think the package they are offering in exchange is good enough.

Consider what the reaction would be to someone who made the above statement. Heck, I'm not even sure Donald Trump could survive making it.

Instead, the basic complaint looks much more like the classic entitlement narrative

Except have you seen any other instance of the entitlement narrative get the same kind of reaction.

Comment author: Lumifer 11 September 2015 01:55:53AM 1 point [-]

Consider what the reaction would be to someone who made the above statement.

Mild. There has been a mostly polite discussion of the so-called zero marginal product workers, that is, people who are of no use (and, actually, often bring negative utility) to an employer. More generally, the idea that some people can't hold (and eventually can't find) a job is not particularly controversial.

get the same kind of reaction

I don't know what reaction are you talking about.

Comment author: VoiceOfRa 11 September 2015 02:35:07AM 2 points [-]

Consider what the reaction would be to someone who made the above statement. Heck, I'm not even sure Donald Trump could survive making it.

Mild. There has been a mostly polite discussion of the so-called zero marginal product workers, that is, people who are of no use (and, actually, often bring negative utility) to an employer.

That's not what I said. I said, consider what the reaction would be if someone made the above statement (in those words).

Also, most of the discussion of zero marginal product workers is along the lines of, "it is the fault of government regulation that these workers are zmp, hence said regulations should be repealed".

Comment author: Lumifer 11 September 2015 03:05:01AM 2 points [-]

consider what the reaction would be if someone made the above statement (in those words).

<shrug> Depending on the audience, of course. Among smart people, mild. Could it create a Twitter shitstorm? Probably could. So what?

Comment author: Good_Burning_Plastic 11 September 2015 08:08:30AM *  -1 points [-]

(in those words)

Yeah, even statements with uncontroversial factual accuracy can be offensive when worded in a sufficiently disingenuous way. That's a quite general phenomenon, with hardly anything specific to your example. So what's your point?

Comment author: Jiro 11 September 2015 03:57:29PM *  2 points [-]

But it isn't worded in a "sufficiently disingenuous way", it's worded in a way similar to Lumifer's sex statement. If it isn't acceptable because of the offensive wording, why is the sex statement acceptable?

Comment author: OrphanWilde 10 September 2015 03:31:21PM 0 points [-]

I think the implication is that the sexual marketplace is inefficient (with an implied dig at the idea that employment is a right in the sense that you describe). Given roughly equal numbers of men and women who want sex and/or relationships, and treating men and women as fungible, there is an inefficiency if everybody isn't satisfied, as partners can be rearranged to produce a greater number of satisfied people.

On the down side for this view, people aren't in fact fungible. On the up side for this view, there are some obvious inefficiencies in the sexual marketplace, such as the distribution of genders across cities. On the "whatever" side for this view, I'm inclined to say that the root of the problem is that value on the sexual marketplace has greater variance for men than women, so the tails on both ends are dominated by men whose preferences cannot be satisfied, and the middle of the distribution has more women than there are men available to satisfy their preferences.

Comment author: Lumifer 10 September 2015 04:08:41PM *  0 points [-]

There are, of course, complications :-)

First, people are not fungible at all (outside of the fairly rare "any hole will do" approach and no, I don't mean bisexuals).

Second, there is a lot of fuzziness about what's actually being traded because under consideration is the whole spectrum from casual one-night stands to till death do us part. Notably when talking about the sex marketplace, what many people want is actually a relationship and that's a bit different.

Third, there are difficulties because what you offer to exchange is not well-defined, partially hidden, and, to top it off, the participants have an incentive to lie about it.

Fourth, as you note, the market isn't quite symmetric in that men and women have different needs, expectations, approaches, and techniques.

All in all, the market certainly isn't perfect, but I don't know if I would characterize the situation as a "market failure". It's just the usual human mess that most manage to muddle through.

Comment author: Good_Burning_Plastic 10 September 2015 07:31:18AM -2 points [-]

Well, the market failure was a lot less in the recent past.

How do you know it's not the past which had a market failure making women have more sex with unattractive men than they would have had ideally?

Comment author: OrphanWilde 10 September 2015 02:57:32PM 1 point [-]

Plus one point for treating women as consumers, rather than products, in the sexual marketplace. Minus one point for treating men as inferior products, rather than unsatisfied consumers, in the sexual marketplace.