Dahlen comments on Open thread 7th september - 13th september - Less Wrong

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Comment author: username2 09 September 2015 09:15:05AM *  3 points [-]

People who are able to reliably create good first impressions when you meet people for the first time, how do you do it? What would you advise?

Comment author: Dahlen 09 September 2015 09:50:27PM 3 points [-]

Superficially good looks and good manners, perhaps.

Advice: make sure the impression continues well after your first few hours/days with the person. I seem to have a 0% retention rate for friends. At some point after our first encounter, all seem to decide there's something off about me. Perhaps my mistakes include: using our newfound trust to reveal some true oddities (people seem to distinguish between normal quirks and odd quirks, as strange as that may be, and I ain't even very far into "odd quirk" territory), and not having a proper understanding of how relationships progress – therefore, keeping in touch either too much or not at all.