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Tell Culture is the phrase I use to gesture toward open and honest communication, which is supported by the research from the Gottman Institute I cited in the very beginning.
That does not mean it is the best way to communicate.
Not saying it is the best way to communicate :-) Just saying that the research supports the statement that open and honest communication is the optimal way to have happy and lasting relationships, which is the point of the article.
There are plenty of exceptions and caveats, as with any research - they apply to the majority, not all. However, one is most likely to win when going with the research unless there are clear reasons not to do so.
Are you talking exclusively about relationships? I'm reading Carnegie's book and interested in similar materials.
The research is specifically about relationships, so this is the claim I make in the article.
Regarding winning friends and influencing people, open and honest communication is often not the best strategy to go. For the research on this, I'd suggest Cialdini's Influence, it gets at many of the same issues as Carnegie but does so using research, and is thus quite a bit more worthwhile.
As far as Gottman goes: http://andrewgelman.com/2010/06/23/more_on_those_d/
Thanks for sharing that, interesting to know!