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Comment author: helldalgo 04 February 2016 02:45:54PM 0 points [-]

(Anecdotal evidence warning)

Facebook seems variable enough that it would depend on your social circle. I think Jacobian's points about standing out are relevant, though, if you want to give it a try. Do you dance? The friends in my "dancing" group seem particularly responsive to flirting and dating behaviors through Facebook, provided that they're not constant or aggressive.

I would probably not be very successful if I used Facebook as a means to find a partner, given the culture of most of my Facebook friends.

Comment author: ChristianKl 07 February 2016 10:47:54PM 1 point [-]

Do you dance? The friends in my "dancing" group seem particularly responsive to flirting and dating behaviors through Facebook, provided that they're not constant or aggressive.

As having danced a lot of Salsa myself in the case of dancing I think facebook is seldom the first contact. It's a useful medium for communicating and other regulars generally accept friend requests from other dancers but I would be doubtful about it's value for a first cold contact.

Comment author: helldalgo 08 February 2016 12:23:56AM 0 points [-]

I've seen a lot of "Dances together, but one party makes the first move through Facebook." I appreciate the alternate perspective, though, I don't have a wide range of groups to compare.

Comment author: ChristianKl 08 February 2016 10:29:11AM 0 points [-]

I've seen a lot of "Dances together, but one party makes the first move through Facebook." I appreciate the alternate perspective, though, I don't have a wide range of groups to compare.

Yes, I can see that but "first move after having danced together" feels to me substantially different than "first move with a person I have never seen in person".