I am not making decisions for them.
In this case I don't understand what do you mean when you say "it might be better for women".
You might be mistaken about the best route to work in the morning
Yes, and when someone says "it might be better for all commuters to just take public transportation", the implication is that each commuter is incapable of making his own choices "correctly" and that taking the ability to make the choice away from her would be of net benefit to the society.
But if you want I can replace the word "agency" with another word: "freedom".
I am not the one who decided who is called a rapist in your scenario
Your whole line of argument is built around the asymmetry between men and women.
"It might be better for women" in the same sense that "it might be better for you" to take a different route in the morning.
And no, that doesn't mean that anyone in particular is incapable of making their choices correctly. It does mean that some people make mistakes sometimes, and that is a thing that happens. But there is nothing impossible about the situation where a custom of using only public transportation would be better for society overall: if that were true, it surely does not mean anyone is not an agent.
There are many asymmetries between men and women. But both of them are agents, and that has nothing to do with calling anyone a rapist.
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