This is a linkpost for http://johnsalvatier.org/blog/2017/submission-and-dominance-among-friends
Do that kind of "put your arm around me", and I'll discreetly ask my friends to next time meet somewhere else where you are not invited.
Yep.
I know that it's irrational, so I try to let it go when it happens casually, but when people touch me like that, I get furious instantly.
It is a status move. You either defend your status, or accept the status loss.
For people who enjoy status fights, defending their status may be simple and enjoyable. But I am not one of them.
For people who enjoy having low status, losing status may be enjoyable. But I am not one of them.
There is also the option of defending my status without enjoying it (or losing my status without enjoying it), but why would I do the things I dislike, if instead I can choose to interact with people who don't do this?
Well...
There is a chance that if I got enough practice a...