Well, more like I'm a bit disappointed that no one has spoken up who's been through this, and said, "Yes, I've been there: First, don't X your husband, then don't Y your children, and about the job, Z worked fine for me..." or something like that. It's not skepticism that's the issue here - it's how to rebuild your life afterward.

I wonder if this is due to this being an impossible (extremely difficult) situation to extricate yourself from cleanly? I would find this very sad, as I love my friends and family deeply, and on some level would like to share my thoughts with them. I won't do so if it will cause them harm or push them away.