Oh, I gotcha. I thought you were saying that you are so individualistic that the subjective experience of having someone think they knew better than you and trying to do something on your behalf was badly painful, but now it sounds to me like you're saying the consequences of people trying to do things on your behalf with an inferior understanding of the situation are some of the most painful memories of your life, because those other persons really screwed things up. I assumed the first interpretation because the sentence I quoted is followed by one describing the hedonic consequences of doing things yourself.