No, I mean if, for example, it bothers you that your roommate never comes through with his share of the rent, you would not want to focus on how you get annoyed by his stupid shrug (which you probably only find annoying and stupid because you associate it with him and his flakiness).
But the purpose if you were doing The Work, would be to focus on that stupid shrug and his "flakiness", precisely so that you can drop them from consideration. Presumably (I assume this is a hypothetical situation), you would be having a judgment like "he shouldn't be flaky" or "he should be responsible", or some other character judgment based on his behavior. The point of the Work is not to do rational computations, it's to drop emotional attachments from the system whose job it is to make you reinforce your tribe's value system through emotional displays.
Once you've dropped whatever "irrational" stuff you have going on, the reasoning about what to practically do gets a LOT easier. As often as not, the first thing that happens upon thinking about the problem afterward is that an obviously sensible solution pops into your head, that you feel you can actually execute -- like, say, calmly starting the search for a new roommate.
If it were countering the confirmation bias, it would ask something like, "Consider the last ten time X had an opportunity to do Y. How many of those times did X actually do Y?"
Yeah, that's totally not the point of the exercise. The point is to drop the emotional judgments that are clouding your reasoning, not to perform reasoning. You do the reasoning after your head is free of the attachment. Because while System 1 is thinking "irresponsible" and "flaky" -- i.e., "this person is violating the rules of my tribe", System 2 tends to stay busy figuring out what arguments to use to accuse him with in front of the tribe, instead of actually trying to solve the problem.
(If the answer is ten, it seems probable that this method has the wrong goal.)
No, it means you've directed the tool to the wrong target: you're not supposed to apply it to the practical problem, you apply it to the most emotional, irrational thoughts you have about the problem... the ones that System 2 likes to keep swept under the rug.
It seems I wasn't clear. My problem with the method in this case is not that it wouldn't work. My problem is that it might work, and I would lose my ability to protect myself against those who would manipulate my behavior through lies.
No, because what you're supposed to use it on is ideas like, "People should be responsible" or "People should do their share", or whatever "tribal standard" you have an emotional attachment to, interfering with your reasoning.
Some people here, for example, get in a tizzy about theists or self-help gurus or some other group that is violating their personal tribal standards. For a while, I got in a tizzy about people here violating one of mine, i.e. "people should listen to me". I used the Work on it, and then quit beating that particular dead horse.
But note that this does not mean I now think that people are listening to me more, or that I now believe I have nothing to say, or anything like that. All I did by dropping the "should" is that I no longer react emotionally to the fact that some people listen to some things more than others. That is now a "mere fact" to me, such that I can still prefer to be listened to, but not experience a negative response to the reverse.
You seem pretty much in agreement with my impression that the method is to engage in a series of biases, but you seem to actually think this is a good thing, because somehow these biases will exactly cancel out other biases the person already has. I see no reason to expect this precise balance from the method.
That's because you're imagining using it for something that it's specifically not intended to be used on. It is aimed at System 1 (aka "the heart", in Katie's terminology) rather than System 2 (aka "the head"). It's not for changing your intellectual appraisal of the situation, it's for removing the emotion that says tribal standards are being violated by a member of the tribe.
That's why the emphasis is on "shoulds", and simple, emotional language -- the real target is whatever standard you've imprinted as a "moral", usually at a young age.
I expect someone who uses this method to forgive people they should not forgive (that is, the forgiveness is not in their interest), and will be easy to take advantage of. After all, they do not have XML tags that say "Should not be taken advantage of", and they could imagine not being bothered by it.
It doesn't interfere with your rational desire not to be taken advantage of. You will still prefer that not to happen. You just won't have emotions clouding your judgment about doing something about it.
Have you ever noticed how often people complain and complain about someone else's behavior, but never actually do anything about it? This is a fix for that.
(Hypothesis: in a tribal environment, individual enforcement of an important group standard is less advantageous than bringing the matter before the tribe, where you can signal your own compliance with the standard and your willingness to punish violations, without having to take on all the risks and costs of private justice. Thus, our emotions of judgment and outrage are evolved to motivate us to expose the violation, rather than taking action on our own. The Work and certain of my own techniques appear to switch off the emotional trigger associated with the standard, ironically freeing one to contemplate whatever enforcement or alternative responses one rationally sees fit.)
Well, it is good that you have some discretion about what issues you use this technique on, but the document you referenced quite clearly states "The first step in The Work is to write down your judgments about any stressful situation in your life" (emphasis added). In the question and answer section, it goes so far as to say, "No one has ever hurt anyone. No one has ever done anything terrible." This criteria of applying it only on beliefs that are actually irrational seems to be something you added, and only communicated when pressed....
The following started as a reply to a request for relationship advice (http://lesswrong.com/lw/zj/open_thread_june_2009/rxy) but is expected to be of enough general interest to justify a top-level post. Sometimes it is beneficial to have older men in the conversation, and this might be one of those times. (I am in my late 40s.)
I am pretty sure that most straight men strong in rationality are better off learning how the typical woman thinks than holding out for a long-term relationship with a women as strong in rationality as he is. If you hold out for a strong female rationalist, you drastically shrink the pool of women you have to choose from -- and people with a lot of experience with dating and relationships tend to consider that a bad move. A useful data point here is the fact (http://lesswrong.com/lw/fk/survey_results/cee) that 95%-97% of Less Wrongers are male. If on the other hand, women currently (*currently* -- not in some extrapolated future after you've sold your company and bought a big house in Woodside) find you extremely attractive or extremely desirable long-term-relationship material, well, then maybe you should hold out for a strong female rationalist if you are a strong male rationalist.
Here is some personal experience in support of the advice above to help you decide whether to follow the advice above.
My information is incomplete because I have never been in a long-term relationship with a really strong rationalist -- or even a scientist, programmer or engineer -- but I have been with a woman who has years of formal education in science (majored in anthropology, later took chem and bio for a nursing credential) and her knowledge of science did not contribute to the relationship in any way that I could tell. Moreover, that relationship was not any better than the one I am in now, with a woman with no college-level science classes at all.
The woman I have been with for the last 5 years is not particularly knowledgeable about science and is not particularly skilled in the art of rationality. Although she is curious about most areas of science, she tends to give up and to stop paying attention if a scientific explanation fails to satisfy her curiosity within 2 or 3 minutes. If there is a strong emotion driving her inquiry, though, she will focus longer. E.g., she sat still for at least 15 or 20 minutes on the evolutionary biology of zoonoses during the height of the public concern over swine flu about a month ago -- and was glad she did. (I know she was glad she did because she thanked me for the explanation, and it is not like her to make an insincere expression of gratitude out of, e.g., politeness.) (The strong emotion driving her inquiry was her fear of swine flu combined with her suspicion that perhaps the authorities were minimizing the severity of the situation to avoid panicking the public.)
Despite her having so much less knowledge of science and the art of rationality than I have, I consider my current relationship a resounding success: it is no exaggeration to say that I am more likely than not vastly better off than I would have been if I had chosen 5 years ago not to pursue this woman to hold out for someone more rational. She is rational enough to take care of herself and to be the most caring and the most helpful girlfriend I have ever had. (Moreover, nothing in my ordinary conversations and interactions with her draw my attention to her relative lack of scientific knowledge or her relative lack of advanced rationalist skills in a way that evokes any regret or sadness in me. Of course, if I had experienced a long-term relationship with a very strong female rationalist in the past, maybe I *would* experience episodes of regret or sadness towards the woman I am with now.)
Here are two more tips on mate selection for the straight men around here.
I have found that it is a very good sign if the woman either (1) assigns high social status to scientific ability or scientific achievement or finds scientific ability appealing in a man or (2) sees science as a positive force in the world. The woman I am with now clearly and decisively meets criterion (1) but does not meet criterion (2). Moreover, one of my most successful relationships was with a woman who finds science fiction very inspiring. (I do not BTW.) The salient thing about that was that she never revealed it to me, nor the fact that she definitely sees science as a positive force in the world. (I pieced those two facts together after we broke up.) The probable reason she never revealed them to me is that she thought they would clue me in to the fact that she found scientific ability appealing in a man, which in turn would have increased the probability that I would try to snow her by pretending to be better at science or more interested in science than I really was. (She'd probably been snowed that way by a man before she met me: male snowing of prospective female sexual partners is common.)
By posting on a topic of such direct consequence to normal straight adult male self-esteem, I am making myself more vulnerable than I would be if I were posting on, e.g., regulatory policy. Awareness of my vulnerability might cause someone to refrain from publicly contradicting what I just wrote. Do not refrain from publicly contradicting what I just wrote! The successful application of rationality and scientific knowledge to this domain has high expected global utility, and after considering the emotional and reputational risks to myself of having posted on this topic, I have concluded that I do not require any special consideration over and above what I would get if I had posted on regulatory policy.
And of course if you have advice to give about mate selection for the straight men around here, here is your chance.
(EDITED to avoid implying that all men are heterosexual.)