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Survey results show that 57.5% of people here are single (plus most a likely large number of people who are in less than happy relationships with not very desirable partners, and this it's best they can do and stay in them because it beats being single).
Let me express again a shock at this figure, which seems a lot higher than society average. As far as I can tell techniques developed by PUA community for getting romantic and sexual partners are the only case ever of evolutionary psychology getting used to achieve very significant practical results in people's lives. So why doesn't absolutely everyone here learn them?
It cannot possibly be lack of interest, unless your emotions are very far from human mainstream sex, affection, connection etc. are probably very high on your list of priorities. So when you can have a solution to a major problem in your life using your favourite tools of rationality and evolutionary psychology, why not take it?
Also advice like avoiding people with opposite political views makes me just sad. That's not how it works. You have a wrong model.
They don't work nearly as well as advertised.
They don't work as well as going to the gym a few times a week.
They have low information density. If you chose to study just the works of David DeAngelo, that would be about (I'm guessing, but not wildly) 25 hours of DVDs and 60 hours of audio, plus another 200 hours of recommended readings, not counting practice and review.
You would probably be better off taking that time and learning how to dance, play an instrument, or speak a foreign language.
Does anything work as well as advertised? Anecdotally, I've seen most people who try it getting some sort of improvement, and orders of magnitude improvement is not uncommon. Unless you've tried it yourself, or have friends who have, or have some empirical evidence, then I don't know where this claim comes from. Even if this improvement doesn't quite measure up to some of the more sleazy marketing materials, it can still be substantially better for some guys than any other alternative currently available.
Evidence or reasoning, please.
This one is correct. You have to filter through this stuff and figure out what applies to you, how to become an intelligent consumer, and how to throw out what you regard as incompatible with your ethics or personality. Low information density is unfortunate, but it will have to be dealt with by those who don't have better options.
What evidence do you have for this claim? Anecdotally, there are many men who do these things but still lack success. For me, being multi-talented got me some attention, yet that attention was useless when I couldn't capitalize on it.
The advice you are giving is pretty much conventional wisdom. If I had followed it years ago, I suspect I would still be more-or-less at where I was then. Instead, I have wildly more success than back then, and I've seen other guys accomplish the same thing. Consequently, I hope you are not merely repeating conventional wisdom and that you have some additional evidence or arguments for the claims of this post; otherwise, the overconfidence displayed might lead others astray.