People want to tell everything instead of telling the best 15 words. They want to learn everything instead of the best 15 words. In this thread, instead post the best 15-words from a book you've read recently (or anything else). It has to stand on its own. It's not a summary, the whole value needs to be contained in those words.
- It doesn't need to cover everything in the book, it's just the best 15 words.
- It doesn't need to be a quote, it's just the best 15 words.
- It doesn't have to be 15 words long, it's just the best "15" words.
- It doesn't have to be precisely true, it's just the best 15 words.
- It doesn't have to be the main 15 words, it just has to be the best 15 words.
- It doesn't have to be the author's 15 words, it just has to be the best 15 words.
- Edit: It shouldn't just be a neat quote--the point of the exercise is to struggle to move from a book down to 15 words.
I'll start in the comments below.
(Voted by the Schelling study group as the best exercise of the meeting.)
For certain definitions of pride. Confidence is a focus on doing what you are good at, enjoying doing things that you are good at, and not avoiding doing things you are good at around others.
Pride is showing how good you are at things "just because you are able to," as if to prove to yourself what you supposedly already know, namely that you are good at them. If you were confident, you would spend your time being good at things, not demonstrating that you are so.
There might be good reasons to manipulate others. Just proving to yourself that you can is not one of them, if there are stronger outside views on your ability to be found elsewhere (like asking unbiased observers).
The Luminosity Sequence has a lot to say about this, and references known biases people have when assessing their abilities.
Maybe that's just my personal quirk (is it?) but my pride is a good motivator for me to become stronger. If I think I am more able in some area than I actually am, then when evidence for the contrary comes knocking, I try as much as I can to defend the 'truth' I believe in by actually training myself in that area until I match that belief. And since I can't keep my mouth shut and thus I tell and demonstrate everyone how awesome I am when I am not actually that good, there is really no way out but to make myself match what other people think of me. Maybe th... (read more)