That's what I meant with treating others as equals and taking responsibility for your own wellbeing.

I think that part of taking responsibility for one's own well-being is knowing when to ask for help with it, and that doing so is not necessarily unreasonable. For example, "I'm really sad right now, will you lend me a shoulder for a while?" seems like it would usually be a reasonable request--but if it's asked of someone whom you know doesn't have the time, or who has even weightier problems of their own, or who will be very distressed by hearing about the nature of your problems, it might become unreasonable.