OK. You do sound as though you don't have very clearly-defined goals - though maybe there is some evasive word-play around the issue of what counts as a "clear" specification. Having goals is not rocket science! In any case, IMO, you would be well advised to start at number 1 on the above list.
How can you possibly get what you want if you don't know what it is? It doesn't matter whether you are looking to acquire wealth, enjoy excellent relationships, become more spiritual, etc. To get anywhere in life, you need to know "exactly" what you want.
Taken from some old comments of mine that never did get a satisfactory answer.
1) One of the justifications for CEV was that extrapolating from an American in the 21st century and from Archimedes of Syracuse should give similar results. This seems to assume that change in human values over time is mostly "progress" rather than drift. Do we have any evidence for that, except saying that our modern values are "good" according to themselves, so whatever historical process led to them must have been "progress"?
2) How can anyone sincerely want to build an AI that fulfills anything except their own current, personal volition? If Eliezer wants the the AI to look at humanity and infer its best wishes for the future, why can't he task it with looking at himself and inferring his best idea to fulfill humanity's wishes? Why must this particular thing be spelled out in a document like CEV and not left to the mysterious magic of "intelligence", and what other such things are there?