Thanks for sharing.

If you haven't already done so, it might be a good idea to sit down with your wife and write down all the areas of contention so you are clear what they are.

That's a great idea. We didn't so much write down contentions in our therapy session, but listed what we'd like to see improve if we could fast forward and be looking at ideal, future versions of ourselves. Not the same, but similar. I think listing the hurdles themselves might be more direct and tangible than working from the indirect method of just painting a mental image without such hurdles pictures.

You can remember what it was like to be a Christian. She can't remember what it's like to be an atheist.

Good point, though I think my ability to really "relive" my former mindset is quite diminished.