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My impression is that two people who spend enough time together and are physically attracted to one another will tend to eventually have sex. It usually takes a lot of willpower for this not to be the case.
Not if you're the sort of person who doesn't know how ordinary people go about signaling they're amenable to having sex.
It was only in retrospect after a lot of social learning that I became aware of all the times in my past that I easily could have been having sex, but wasn't because I didn't recognize the cues I was supposed to be picking up.
Was sex your goal at the time? How much time did you spend with the person(s) in question? Enough for it to be considered a long-term romantic relationship?
No. This
described my outlook, and still does. I would have been happy to be having sex though.
And it varied; there are simply a number of people, who I spent differing amounts, some quite a lot, of time with, who in retrospect were willing to have sex with me.
Having been in the position of needing good advice, I agree with HughRistik that the advice above is mostly pretty bad unless you're the sort of person who doesn't already need the advice.
(Where 'already' probably fits better a few words earlier.)
It's not for nothing that my post history is full of comments with edit marks next to them. But now if I correct this one, it'll have a pointless comment box hanging off of it. See what you did?
Are you sure it's bad advice? Maybe it's good advice, but not written explicitly enough. And maybe other advice that is written more explicitly isn't as good, but is defaulted to out of (reasonable!) fear of feeling incompetent.
It might have been clearer if I'd distinguished between advice that is bad because it suggests unwise courses of action, and advice that is bad because attempting to follow it is not a feasible way to modify your actions for the better. I think it's bad advice of the sort that doesn't provide enough information to be positive or negative.