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I find that when I feel awkward, other people can tell. Unless they're remarkably understanding and poised, this tends to make other people feel uneasy enough that they too become awkward.
This tells very little about how to actually become less awkward, which seems to me to be mostly a matter of practice so that you know what to do, and somehow making yourself feel less self-conscious so that you don't start feeling awkward.
This actually sort of hints at one of my go-to techniques, which is to assume somebody else is probably feeling awkward, identify that person, and make them feel better. Even if you still come off as shy, people will think you're a really nice shy person.
ETA: Downside, if you are a lady and even sort of cute, you end up with a lot of awkward dudes crushing on you.
"Girl payed attention to me/ I think I just fell in love" is indeed a very SOB reaction. Of course, Fluttershy-like girls can be really compelling in their own way.
You know, I'm not sure the instant attraction when a person of your preferred sex is nice to you is actually the thing that's weird here. The difference is that a non-awkward guy, at this point, gets flirty and tries for the phone number, and an awkward guy spends 3-6 months trying to make you like him and then confesses his love via AIM.
This is clearly the best way to confess love. Even if you are in the same room with the object thereof.
3-6 months? So impatient... :P
Also, the normal guy is less SERIOUSLY flirty, more nonchalant, and less afraid of it backfiring. The seductive implications of that... are for another discussion entirely.
But yeah, the normal guy doesn't care if you like him or not as long as you put out, the awkward guy wants you to completely fall for him.