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Hyena comments on Those who can't admit they're wrong - Less Wrong Discussion

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Comment author: Hyena 02 July 2011 12:53:04AM 8 points [-]

In grade school, I would not admit mistakes. Ever. As Zetetic pointed out, it was a good way to invite additional torment. If you stood your ground, you looked douchey but you never conceded and so the frustration was less.

In college, I admitted mistakes frequently because admission of mistakes actually brought benefits instead. People didn't torment you and your admission opened up new pathways. Being humble was a pragmatic virtue.

When I left college, I found out that adults are <I>the worst people I've ever dealt with</I>. Status competition was fierce--especially at my government job--and so I never, NEVER, admitted a mistake unless I had planted the mistake for that purpose. If you admitted anything, if you hadn't staged everything perfectly, it would all be used against you. I learned that there was nothing positive in the world, only negatives. Life as a series of demerits until demise.

I think that's why people have hardened so far in their positions, even in private: they have learned that admitting mistakes will bring them harm and learning from them will gain them comparatively little.

Just another reason I live on welfare instead of work, I guess.

Comment author: Vladimir_Nesov 02 July 2011 12:59:57AM 2 points [-]

This isn't universally so, you just need to look for other environments. Ask people you know to figure out how things are where.

Comment author: Hyena 02 July 2011 01:05:52AM 2 points [-]

Sadly, in this economy, my best bet is to use my last job to get a new government job. It only gets worse with permanent positions.