I used to play paintball competitively, and when I first got into the competitive scene I started making aggressive moves no matter what my instincts said because my instincts were wrong. I did this to train my instincts, and it worked. I quickly figured out when I could make moves and when I couldn't. This process allowed me to adjust my instincts as I started competing against better opponents - where making moves is much more difficult.
A perfect parable for learning social skills. The consequences for social failures nowadays, like those for getting shot with a paint ball, are not the death that our instincts expect.
Link: wired.com/wiredscience/2011/09/how-should-we-make-hard-decisions/