People are too sensitive. When I played basketball, people thought that a coach didn't like them if they yelled at them. However, a fate far worse would be if the coach gave up and didn't care enough about the person to yell at them. I personally enjoy it when people critique my reasoning, just so long as it's not some sort of signaling thing so that they feel dominant. I wholeheartedly endorse this idea. People cannot improve unless they get feedback.
This is also a useful heuristic when trying to pick a book on amazon. Read the negative reviews.
Most people need feedback in many areas. Most people can give feedback in many areas. But for some reason I don't see a lot of actual honest feedback happening, neither in my personal life, nor at work, nor here on LW. This looks like some sort of market failure, or perhaps a bug in society.
Would we benefit from a norm that encouraged asking for feedback or critique in any area, perhaps using open threads set up specially for that? I think we would. What do you think?