IIRC, the marriage literature found that opposites do not attract, so you could just give everyone a Big Five and try to minimize distance. As far as seating goes, I'd guess that Extraversion is the most important factor, so put all the extroverts together and the introverts together?
Shoot from the hip guesses: Sort by openness and conscientiousness in a like-with-like way for compatibility. Sanguine agreeables go in the hubs and high traffic areas so they can brighten people's day while neurotics and disagreeables go to different corners and edges where they will have less connectivity to bother or be bothered by anyone other than people with similar problems. I had the same thought as Cog on trying to mix the extraverts and introverts so the outgoing people can draw out the shy ones sitting next to them.
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Does anyone know of a freely available, short personality test that would be appropriate for estimating pairwise compatibility for wedding seating?