Divide the groups in two based on familial affiliation (they'll expect that).
Ask the following questions:
Bias x by (1) [near aisle should be "tiny"] and y by (2) [back should be "tall"]. Average groups, ignore children.
Thanks for your suggestions, but our problem is seating for the reception, not so much the actual ceremony.
Does anyone know of a freely available, short personality test that would be appropriate for estimating pairwise compatibility for wedding seating?