is that we can't get too many new people involved at once, or it would change the dynamic so that we'd no longer be an explicitly LW group
This has worried me as well, and is why we havn't been fishing randoms from everywhere.
gender ratio
The only female attending ours is my wife. I guess it varies a lot.
extroverts
hmm. we have no extroverts and have regular awkward moments and rough flow sometimes, but we've all agreed that awkward silences don't have to be considered awkward. That has helped some.
I think we need to have more discussion of meetup tactics on LW. At my local meetup, we've been feeling a bit lost about what works best, so I hereby propose that we have semi-regular meetup tactics discussions like the open and quotes threads.
So here's a few questions to start us off: