The questions
Is the username deceptive?
and
Is the username misleading?
are not equivalent. I interpret the first as asking about norm violations.
When a person writes from personal experience on a topic closely related to sex/gender, a nome de plume that causes some readers to believe that the author is of the opposite sex/gender can (unintentionally) mislead readers by causing a misevaluation of the conditions that created the personal experiences discussed. On the other hand, if a person is writing about, say, Nash equilibria in game theory, their sex/gender is irrelevant to evaluation of what they are writing and so a mistaken impression of sex/gender is not misleading.
I agree that a discussion that doesn't clarify the gender of the writer is problematic. But the original assertion was that katydee was per se a deceptive username.
The questions . . . are not equivalent. I interpret the first as asking about norm violations.
Yes, but katydee didn't just ask if it was deceptive, he asked, and I again quote exactly, "is my current username deceptive or otherwise misleading"? Why are you persisting in objecting to me answering a question that katydee asked?
So, my current username often reads as female. This is not intentional, and I am not female. Some on IRC have pointed out that this username could be considered misleading or deceptive. I have no real attachment to it, but I do have a few articles that I've been discussing and planning on posting here, and I think it would be confusing for others if I changed usernames, making it difficult for people to follow the genesis of certain ideas. However, I also don't want to mislead anybody.
Therefore, I pose the question to the community: is my current username deceptive or otherwise misleading, and should I change it?