Many of us heard many times about the typical problems of gifted children, but is there a reproducible working solution?

Contacting intelligent people with each other can be useful to remove the feeling of "I am alone with this problem". But then what? You essentially get Mensa -- a group of people who are happy to belong, but at the same time they are all used to be special, and they all want to be special in the same criterium they now officially recognize: intelligence. And the signalling war starts. Everyone talks about "what is intelligence", "how should intelligence be measured", "why the most intelligent people should rule the world, but unfortunately the majority is too stupid to accept this simple logical fact", random redefinitions of intelligence, quack intelligence tests, pseudoscience of every kind, and also the theory of relativity and quantum physics because you are supposed to talk about it and prove Einstein wrong even if you never learned the basic theory... and I guess behind this all is one big unspoken fear that if you do not prove to be the smartest among the smartest, then you don't really belong anywhere: too weird for the everyday life, but not exceptional enough for the elite.

Schools for gifted children? I have only one data point (and would like to hear other reports), but it was mostly signalling. So you put all the gifted kids in the same building, and you get a building with many entitled children with mostly zero work ethic, and now what? Some of the children win olympiads and you present this as the result your school has achieved. Then they are out of school, ready for the typical life failures of the gifted children.

Socialization is not the complete answer. Guidance is needed, too. In addition to study what separates gifted children from average children (there is already a lot of literature on this) we need to study that separates successful gifted people from unsuccessful gifted people, and how to teach the latter to become the former. Who knows, some things we do for the gifted children may be even harmful in long term. I think it is good to let gifted children work on their own projects, but we should be extra careful not to reward them for sloppy work. Also the proverbial lack of attention should not be an excuse for a bad behavior.

I think if I was a child again in today's world, I would probably prefer some long-term support outside of the school system (so I don't lose the support system when I change school). It should be some organization with more people (so I don't lose the support system when one person quits). Something available both online and personally, where I could ask questions, where people would give me study resources, guide me through my projects, and also look at my finished projects and review them seriously (not "wow this is great for your age", but "you did this part correctly and that part incorrectly, see me again when you fix it, and here is something related to study"). And while supporting me on my desired way, they should also sometimes challenge me to try something new. I wouldn't need anyone to tell me that I am special (that just creates anxiety: what if I stop being so special?), but I would like to have as much help as possible to become stronger. Unfortunately, I feel our treatment of gifted children is mostly "you are so cool, and we actually have no idea about what to do next, so just enjoy your coolness as long as you have it".