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One standard suggestion is to imagine the worst outcome possible and come to terms with it.
This is a great suggestion and the practice dates back to Ancient Greece and the Stoic philosophers, if not before. It is often called "negative visualization". You can read more about it here: http://gettingstronger.org/stoicism/ Scroll down to the "Meditation" section with the video of Tim Ferriss.
I've learned this on my own in dealing with anxiety, but although it works in numbing the anxiety it also makes me more akratic. Basically, "hey, that shitty situation isn't so bad. Wait... where'd all my motivation to avoid it go?"
I understand this pretty clearly, and so I think I can draw a useful distinction.
A little bit of anxiety or worrying is a useful signal to my whole mind to sharpen my focus. For brief stresses - with projected duration of a week or less, usually - this is good, and I can actually experience it as a pleasant challenge to rise to.
If that same "little bit of anxiety" stretches out over weeks or months, though, I become numb to the motivation, but not to the negative effects of worry. Also, if I'm worried enough about something that might take a while to finish - more than about three or four days - then I'm prone to shutting down entirely. It's as if some part of me is convinced that it is important to worry for its own sake, and I'll wind up spending up to three or four hours a day doing nothing but staring off into space, worrying unproductively. This sort of worry is unhelpful, and demotivating, and what I'm trying to curb.
Of everything here that I've tried, this worked the best. Once I did this, I found enough distance from the decision to be able to think more clearly about it. Thanks!
Along those lines, compare the worst outcome to the big screw ups you've already made and survived in life.
I'm also rather cheered up by fatalism. "Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think" - very catchy tune.