Sometimes I stop talking to people because I don't think there is anything interesting to say.
Sometimes it's because I have to say something that's long/complicated, and I can't find enough time to write/say it.
And sometimes it's because I see no use for talking to the other person, so I just ignore them. (But I don't do this if they are expecting me to reply.)
If you have something long/complicated to say, would you eventually attempt to get around to saying it?
I may have occasionally had long heart-to-hearts with people I had been out of contact with for a long time, but to the extent that I am remembering this correctly I suspect that it is a way in which I am atypical.
The other day, someone did something I didn't expect. It was something many people have done before; something that I thought of as very normal, but that I in no way understood and had not predicted.
As I said, this had happened many time before, so I wrote it off as "me not understanding people" or "people are weird" for a second, like I usually do, before realizing that "bad at" really means "lacking basic knowledge", which I had never realized before.
And then I thought "I should ask someone who is different from me why people do that, and eventually someone will have an answer."
But many people will have many more questions like this. So, what have you observed people doing time and time again, but never understood? Or something that you only understood after a long time or asking someone about it?
And can Less Wrong tell us, not necessarily why (I for one can make up evolutionary psychology fairy tales all day if I want) but what conscious thought process occurs behind these events?